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ONLINE DATING
The internet is a ready place for meeting potential lovers. Below are some ideas that might be of use so as not to get lost in the myriad of profiles that get uploaded everyday

You should never forget that your online dating profile is pretty much an advertisement for yourself. There is no point downplaying your attributes. Demonstrate your best features in a positive light and as much as you can. Sell yourself up.

Display a nice picture. Singles will not date you if they cannot see what you look like. This makes sense since approximately 90% of initial attraction is based upon appearances. Ensure that your online photo is as flattering as it can be. If you have great features make sure that they are well displayed in the picture

There is no point lying about your age and your hobbies. Be honest about what sort of relationship you are seeking. There are plenty of singles in online dating for all types of encounters. Being honest on your profile gives you a much higher chance of finding someone that you would get along with, with ease.

Show originality. Never be afraid to stand out from the rest of the online dating singles. People get bored reading the same descriptions over and over. Make an effort to give different answers to others. Be overtly expressive ,remember the whole world has access to your profile. Bland and safe answers are boring and you might not catch any one's attention by playing it safe.


Never ever appear desperate. You may have been single for a while. Your online dating profile is not a place to showcase your misery ,it is not attractive. The more desperate you appear, the less singles you will attract. The trick to online dating is to appear happy and carefree.

In conclusion spend some quality time writing your online profile .Give it the effort you would give a resume……..It is actually one……. lol

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COPING WITH LIES AND OTHER VICES
Most problems encountered in relationships stem from the inability to entirely trust the other party. An issue of concern because we are all humans.Although honesty is generally taught as the best policy, many of us still tell what we believe are harmless "white lies.” All moral frailties stem from our lying natures. How are you to know when someone is telling you the whole truth as opposed to a white lie? Here are some tips that will help you catch a lying partner.

The "white lie" is employed more than any other form of communication with those closest to us. We are more apt to shade the truth in order to avoid hurt feelings or, when we know a person really well, we tell a “white lie” because we think they really don't want the true truth. We believe we know the white-lie-version they want to hear.

Lying is a personal decision .However there are psychological pressures when we lie to a loved one. An amateur liar will not look you right in the eye when lying. They may touch their head with their hand, or hold their palms up as they spin the lie. These are both giveaways.
An accomplished liar does the opposite. They look you in the eye, their hands at their side. An amateur liar will use the strongest adjectives and a voice level that are above normal pitch and speed.

Is the person you're talking to very fidgety? You often see kids do this when they're telling a tale. That's a sign that someone may be lying.
Someone speaking the truth is not concerned about whether you misunderstand them; they are always willing to clarify. The liar wants to be sure you understand their point immediately so that he can change the subject and no further questions will be asked.
A good memory helps when spotting a liar. You will notice that different stories do not add up. Their stories will contradict.

Rely on your instincts, if you are not paranoid and do not have trust issues. A liar will usually make you feel insecure for some unknown reason.
The extra effort needed to remember what they've already said and to keep their stories consistent may cause liars to restrain their movements and fill their speech with pauses.

What is there to be done when you catch your quarry telling a lie? It is very advisable not to criticize. Instead gently and lovingly call the person to it. Allow the person save face .Most times, someone caught telling a lie ‘ll never admit .In such occasions ,allow the matter to rest and move on but keep you ears and eyes open.

If the situation keeps repeating itself, it is advisable to allow the person be. Someone who is a pathological liar with no effort towards changing is not worth spending time with.