HOW TO WIN THE ADMIRATION OF YOUR PEERS
Sometimes you look at some people and you wonder: what is special about this person? what does he/she have that I do not ? What makes people mill around him/her? These and a barrage of other questions cloud our minds when we see someone who seems to have it all. At times it is not that the person is excessively attractive, but there is just some thing we can’t place.
The good news is that wherever we are, we can learn to win the admiration or respect of people around us without too much effort. Those that appear to have it all do some things subconsciously. Some of these things will be brought to our knowledge in this write up.
First of all, our appearance is the first thing people notice about us. Funny enough you might not be too blessed in the Department of looks, but at least you can put on nice and attractive clothing, you do have control over that. Investing in good clothing is not a luxury, it is a necessity. We all have to put on cloths. It also helps to boost confidence when you are well dressed. Our cloths and shoes go a long way in the way people perceive us. If you dress like you don’t care or you are poor, you probably are. It is therefore important to “dress the part”, people are attracted to success.
It is of utmost importance to be unattached to the outcome. There is intense power in not having too many expectations. It helps to focus most especially on the most important things at the right time. People might not start noticing you as soon as you start dressing well,( of course they never noticed you before) and throughout those times, your obscurity never altered your personality. Why must you now fall to pieces because you expect something you are not used to, to happen, and it has not happened .The reality is ,it is a process. Do not allow your anxiety and expectations to create mental blocks that will impede your progress.
In place of anxiety and expectations, maintain an upbeat personality. People are drawn to happiness, not misery. They tend to think your own happiness will rub off on them. An upbeat personality is attainable. To do this, take a moment to meditate on the good times in your life and be thankful for those times. Of course there will be some dark moments, but take time to focus more on the good times. Anything you focus on magnifies.
Another method of maintaining an up beat personality is constant affirmation. Tell yourself continuously that you are joyful, confident and happy. At first your mind might recognise it as a ”bug”, after some time it becomes part of you. This method can be used for anything you desire. Constantly repeat what you want to yourself and the manifestations will begin to show with time.
If you have a special skill or talent, work on improving yourself. People want to identify with individuals who are lofty. It makes them feel good to associate with you if you have a natural skill to showcase. It is important to be subtle with showing off what you can do .Maintain a seemingly low profile and let others sing your praises. They ‘ll be the ones to call others to you.
It helps to win admiration if to some extent , you are self sacrificial. Maybe you can lease a little of your time to help someone in need or give a gift to someone who needs it. This definitely earns you respect and admiration because people are naturally wired to be selfish. You do not have to be a “doormat” to be self sacrificial. You could just acknowledge a colleagues’ dressing or lend a helping hand or even offer information. All of these add up to the way people perceive you.
Staying independent, being unconventional can win you admiration amidst your peers. People tend to stick to laid down rules. If you can get things done independently in a new way without showing arrogance, you would definitely win the respect of your peers.
It is important not to babble about your accomplishments. People are drawn to mystery, maintain a low profile, be humble and you ;ll see the effect of your actions
To wrap it up, winning admiration is a life long process. We continue to learn what works and what does not ,as each day comes.
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Thursday, October 9, 2008
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KIDNEY PROBLEMS
Kidney –related problems have become an issue that calls for urgent action by Governments and other stakeholders .Judging by statistics from hospitals, renal diseases, constitute more serious health problems than HIV/AIDS or hepatitis B.According to the International society of Nephrology, more than 500 million in the world have a form of kidney damage or the other.
Based on sentinel survey on AIDS, the prevalent rate of HIV is outrageous. To a doubting Thomas, the statistics on kidney problems may be alarming. Reports of leading hospitals on renal failure will however lend credence to the figures given . If records from leading hospitals are not convincing enough, records from private health parastatals will probably do. Research has it that about 300 patients are on dialysis every month in private hospitals (Dialysis is the process of taking waste products out of the blood of people with damaged kidney). The hospitals carry out at least one kidney transplant every week.
It has come to the knowledge of the authorities that at least 5% of the entire populace know next to nothing about the disease which has helped to reinforce the rising incidence of renal failure and in turn, has increased the number of patients besieging the media seeking financial assistance to go . The cost of dialysis is expensive and a patient requires two sessions every week to survive. Kidney transplant is still at its infancy in some countries, not many hospitals undertake it In countries where the standard of living is still improving, it will require the assistance of a philanthropist to help an average person finance his treatment.
With the large number of kidney failure cases, the best way to solve the problem will be prevention. Possible causes of kidney failure include hypertension, diabetes and sickle cell disorder. Hypertension is a symptomless complication, when a particular blood level is attained ,it can irreversibly damage the kidney .Diabetes is another condition that trigger kidney disease .If the statistics from screenings across the country is anything to go by, many people are at risk of kidney related diseases. A related screening in Lagos state in Nigeria showed that 36.7% of the people were hypertensive and 5.4% were diabetic. Diabetes accounts for 18% of chronic kidney failures in the country.
Nephrologists are of the opinion that diabetes induced chronic kidney disease are life style induced. Chronic kidney disease can be linked to change in life styles .Regular examination will enable medical practitioners to detect the kidney problem ,If detected on time ,it can be reversed. People should place more emphasis on drinking of water ,reduction of caffeine intake and junk food .Eight to ten cups of water each day will flush toxins from the body. Presently, most developing countries do not have policies on renal placement therapy for people with end stage kidney disease.
World health Organization (WHO) placed a call across and called for national policies on the diseases. This was corroborated by the president of the International society of Nephrologists – “we have to spread the message that chronic kidney disease is common and harmful but treatable especially if treated on time ”
SUNGLASSES
Years back, sunglasses appeared to make the world dark, offering twin oasis of shades for Sun-weary eyes .Nowadays ,they do a lot more ,most importantly, helping to protect the eyes against damaging ultraviolet (UV)rays which Opticians say can cause skin cancer ,Corneal damage ,Cataract and Macular degeneration. Apart from protecting the eyes, sunglasses help give expression and exuberance to our personality. If you want to whip up instant attitude, acquire a mysterious aura, just slip on a pair of sunglasses,
No other accessory can give such an instant transformation. However, despite its many pluses, not a few people still feel sunshades are one of these fashion fancies that one needn’t splurge on. They give the excuse that a cheap pair of sunglasses work as an expensive one so why waste all that money.
Notwithstanding this “Miser Moses” or “thrifty” notion, some people cannot resist the temptation of spending fortunes on fanciful Sunglasses. For them, Sunglasses are as important as any other fashion accessory.
Designers like Ray Ban, Police, Oakley, Salvatone Ferregamo, Armani and Diesel have made sure that with “drop dead gorgeous” designer collections now rocking our shops, no one is beyond temptation.
Asides names, Quality is another thing that has endeared designer labels to people’s hearts. When it comes to company designer sunglasses and cheap ones, the major difference is the materials used in producing them. The more expensive the sunglasses ,the longer they tend to last, they also tend to filter lights better.There are a number of varieties out there; playful plastics, tough aviators,retro,rimless, light weight futuristic shields.
Some designers like Oakley have come up with a new style of eyeglasses that pander up to the lifestyle of our youths. The thump line for example, comes with a flash memory and a blue tooth ear phone that allow you to download and play your favorite music on the go.
When it comes to finding the right frames, opposites attract. People with round faces should opt for square or rectangular frames, while those with square faces should try round ones. While choosing sunglasses or any other type of glasses there is yet another factor to be considered other than shape of the face, which is shape of the nose.
For the wide nosed individual (apologies!)Plastic frames are usually the best, because they have narrow bridges and can look pinched .Look –good experts, say you should stick with rimless or metal forms with adjustable nose pads.
The long nosed (sorry!) will receive comfort from a straight horizontal plastic frame with a low bridge which will break up the lines of the face nicely and give that desired look.
Skinny nosed people (no offence intended!) should count themselves lucky as they can wear any kind of glasses.
If you’ve got a small nose, you should go for some glasses that make sure that the eyes are centered in the lens
People with wide set eyes should stick with larger rimless or plastic styles as these forms work best for them.
Finally, when buying sunglasses, it is better to try them on before purchase. That way, you get the style that compliments your looks.
And do keep these “nevers” in mind: Never buy a pair of glasses because they look good on someone else and never have someone buy you glasses as they might end up picking the wrong fit for your face.
Want to whip up your image, get a sunglass!
HISTORY OF INSURANCE
In a way, it can be said that insurance appeared simultaneously with the appearance of human society. Two types of economies in human societies are known: Non-money or natural economies (without money, markets, financial instruments and so on) and money economies (with markets, money, financial instruments and so on). The first type is a more ancient form than the second. In such an economy and community that involves humans, We see insurance in the sense of people helping each other. For instance, if a house burns down, the members of the community help build a new one and vice versa. This type of insurance has survived to the present day in some countries where modern money economy with its financial instruments is not widespread
Early methods of transferring or distributing risk were practised by Chinese and Babylonian traders as long ago as the 2nd and 3rd millennia BC, respectively. Chinese merchants travelling treacherous river rapids would redistribute their wares across many vessels to limit the loss due to any single vessel's capsizing. The Babylonians developed a system practiced by early Mediterranean sailing merchants. If a merchant receives a loan to fund his shipment, he would pay the lender an additional sum in exchange for the lender's guarantee to cancel the loan should the shipment be stolen.
The inhabitants of Rhodes invented the concept of the 'general average'. Merchants whose goods were being shipped together would pay a proportionally divided premium which would be used to reimburse any merchant whose goods were jettisoned during storm
The Greeks and Romans introduced the origins of health and life insurance c. 600 AD when they organized guilds called "benevolent societies" which cared for the families and paid funeral expenses of members upon death. Before insurance was established in the late 17th century. "Friendly societies" existed in England, in which people donated amounts of money to a general sum that could be used for emergencies.
Insurance as we know it today can be traced to the Great Fire of London, which in 1666 devoured 13,200 houses. In the aftermath of this disaster, Nicholas Barbon opened an office to insure buildings. In 1680, he established England's first fire insurance company, "The Fire Office," to insure brick and frame homes.
In 1752 Benjamin Franklin, helped found the Philadelphia contributionship for the Insurance of Houses from Loss by Fire. Franklin's company was the first to make contributions toward fire prevention. His company warned against certain fire hazards, and also refused to insure certain buildings where the risk of fire was too great, such as all wooden houses.
Old time Insurance is an archetype of contemporary insurance. Most of all the workings today are patterned after classical methods and based on the same principles
Kidney –related problems have become an issue that calls for urgent action by Governments and other stakeholders .Judging by statistics from hospitals, renal diseases, constitute more serious health problems than HIV/AIDS or hepatitis B.According to the International society of Nephrology, more than 500 million in the world have a form of kidney damage or the other.
Based on sentinel survey on AIDS, the prevalent rate of HIV is outrageous. To a doubting Thomas, the statistics on kidney problems may be alarming. Reports of leading hospitals on renal failure will however lend credence to the figures given . If records from leading hospitals are not convincing enough, records from private health parastatals will probably do. Research has it that about 300 patients are on dialysis every month in private hospitals (Dialysis is the process of taking waste products out of the blood of people with damaged kidney). The hospitals carry out at least one kidney transplant every week.
It has come to the knowledge of the authorities that at least 5% of the entire populace know next to nothing about the disease which has helped to reinforce the rising incidence of renal failure and in turn, has increased the number of patients besieging the media seeking financial assistance to go . The cost of dialysis is expensive and a patient requires two sessions every week to survive. Kidney transplant is still at its infancy in some countries, not many hospitals undertake it In countries where the standard of living is still improving, it will require the assistance of a philanthropist to help an average person finance his treatment.
With the large number of kidney failure cases, the best way to solve the problem will be prevention. Possible causes of kidney failure include hypertension, diabetes and sickle cell disorder. Hypertension is a symptomless complication, when a particular blood level is attained ,it can irreversibly damage the kidney .Diabetes is another condition that trigger kidney disease .If the statistics from screenings across the country is anything to go by, many people are at risk of kidney related diseases. A related screening in Lagos state in Nigeria showed that 36.7% of the people were hypertensive and 5.4% were diabetic. Diabetes accounts for 18% of chronic kidney failures in the country.
Nephrologists are of the opinion that diabetes induced chronic kidney disease are life style induced. Chronic kidney disease can be linked to change in life styles .Regular examination will enable medical practitioners to detect the kidney problem ,If detected on time ,it can be reversed. People should place more emphasis on drinking of water ,reduction of caffeine intake and junk food .Eight to ten cups of water each day will flush toxins from the body. Presently, most developing countries do not have policies on renal placement therapy for people with end stage kidney disease.
World health Organization (WHO) placed a call across and called for national policies on the diseases. This was corroborated by the president of the International society of Nephrologists – “we have to spread the message that chronic kidney disease is common and harmful but treatable especially if treated on time ”
SUNGLASSES
Years back, sunglasses appeared to make the world dark, offering twin oasis of shades for Sun-weary eyes .Nowadays ,they do a lot more ,most importantly, helping to protect the eyes against damaging ultraviolet (UV)rays which Opticians say can cause skin cancer ,Corneal damage ,Cataract and Macular degeneration. Apart from protecting the eyes, sunglasses help give expression and exuberance to our personality. If you want to whip up instant attitude, acquire a mysterious aura, just slip on a pair of sunglasses,
No other accessory can give such an instant transformation. However, despite its many pluses, not a few people still feel sunshades are one of these fashion fancies that one needn’t splurge on. They give the excuse that a cheap pair of sunglasses work as an expensive one so why waste all that money.
Notwithstanding this “Miser Moses” or “thrifty” notion, some people cannot resist the temptation of spending fortunes on fanciful Sunglasses. For them, Sunglasses are as important as any other fashion accessory.
Designers like Ray Ban, Police, Oakley, Salvatone Ferregamo, Armani and Diesel have made sure that with “drop dead gorgeous” designer collections now rocking our shops, no one is beyond temptation.
Asides names, Quality is another thing that has endeared designer labels to people’s hearts. When it comes to company designer sunglasses and cheap ones, the major difference is the materials used in producing them. The more expensive the sunglasses ,the longer they tend to last, they also tend to filter lights better.There are a number of varieties out there; playful plastics, tough aviators,retro,rimless, light weight futuristic shields.
Some designers like Oakley have come up with a new style of eyeglasses that pander up to the lifestyle of our youths. The thump line for example, comes with a flash memory and a blue tooth ear phone that allow you to download and play your favorite music on the go.
When it comes to finding the right frames, opposites attract. People with round faces should opt for square or rectangular frames, while those with square faces should try round ones. While choosing sunglasses or any other type of glasses there is yet another factor to be considered other than shape of the face, which is shape of the nose.
For the wide nosed individual (apologies!)Plastic frames are usually the best, because they have narrow bridges and can look pinched .Look –good experts, say you should stick with rimless or metal forms with adjustable nose pads.
The long nosed (sorry!) will receive comfort from a straight horizontal plastic frame with a low bridge which will break up the lines of the face nicely and give that desired look.
Skinny nosed people (no offence intended!) should count themselves lucky as they can wear any kind of glasses.
If you’ve got a small nose, you should go for some glasses that make sure that the eyes are centered in the lens
People with wide set eyes should stick with larger rimless or plastic styles as these forms work best for them.
Finally, when buying sunglasses, it is better to try them on before purchase. That way, you get the style that compliments your looks.
And do keep these “nevers” in mind: Never buy a pair of glasses because they look good on someone else and never have someone buy you glasses as they might end up picking the wrong fit for your face.
Want to whip up your image, get a sunglass!
HISTORY OF INSURANCE
In a way, it can be said that insurance appeared simultaneously with the appearance of human society. Two types of economies in human societies are known: Non-money or natural economies (without money, markets, financial instruments and so on) and money economies (with markets, money, financial instruments and so on). The first type is a more ancient form than the second. In such an economy and community that involves humans, We see insurance in the sense of people helping each other. For instance, if a house burns down, the members of the community help build a new one and vice versa. This type of insurance has survived to the present day in some countries where modern money economy with its financial instruments is not widespread
Early methods of transferring or distributing risk were practised by Chinese and Babylonian traders as long ago as the 2nd and 3rd millennia BC, respectively. Chinese merchants travelling treacherous river rapids would redistribute their wares across many vessels to limit the loss due to any single vessel's capsizing. The Babylonians developed a system practiced by early Mediterranean sailing merchants. If a merchant receives a loan to fund his shipment, he would pay the lender an additional sum in exchange for the lender's guarantee to cancel the loan should the shipment be stolen.
The inhabitants of Rhodes invented the concept of the 'general average'. Merchants whose goods were being shipped together would pay a proportionally divided premium which would be used to reimburse any merchant whose goods were jettisoned during storm
The Greeks and Romans introduced the origins of health and life insurance c. 600 AD when they organized guilds called "benevolent societies" which cared for the families and paid funeral expenses of members upon death. Before insurance was established in the late 17th century. "Friendly societies" existed in England, in which people donated amounts of money to a general sum that could be used for emergencies.
Insurance as we know it today can be traced to the Great Fire of London, which in 1666 devoured 13,200 houses. In the aftermath of this disaster, Nicholas Barbon opened an office to insure buildings. In 1680, he established England's first fire insurance company, "The Fire Office," to insure brick and frame homes.
In 1752 Benjamin Franklin, helped found the Philadelphia contributionship for the Insurance of Houses from Loss by Fire. Franklin's company was the first to make contributions toward fire prevention. His company warned against certain fire hazards, and also refused to insure certain buildings where the risk of fire was too great, such as all wooden houses.
Old time Insurance is an archetype of contemporary insurance. Most of all the workings today are patterned after classical methods and based on the same principles
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
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ONLINE DATING
The internet is a ready place for meeting potential lovers. Below are some ideas that might be of use so as not to get lost in the myriad of profiles that get uploaded everyday
You should never forget that your online dating profile is pretty much an advertisement for yourself. There is no point downplaying your attributes. Demonstrate your best features in a positive light and as much as you can. Sell yourself up.
Display a nice picture. Singles will not date you if they cannot see what you look like. This makes sense since approximately 90% of initial attraction is based upon appearances. Ensure that your online photo is as flattering as it can be. If you have great features make sure that they are well displayed in the picture
There is no point lying about your age and your hobbies. Be honest about what sort of relationship you are seeking. There are plenty of singles in online dating for all types of encounters. Being honest on your profile gives you a much higher chance of finding someone that you would get along with, with ease.
Show originality. Never be afraid to stand out from the rest of the online dating singles. People get bored reading the same descriptions over and over. Make an effort to give different answers to others. Be overtly expressive ,remember the whole world has access to your profile. Bland and safe answers are boring and you might not catch any one's attention by playing it safe.
Never ever appear desperate. You may have been single for a while. Your online dating profile is not a place to showcase your misery ,it is not attractive. The more desperate you appear, the less singles you will attract. The trick to online dating is to appear happy and carefree.
In conclusion spend some quality time writing your online profile .Give it the effort you would give a resume……..It is actually one……. lol
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COPING WITH LIES AND OTHER VICES
Most problems encountered in relationships stem from the inability to entirely trust the other party. An issue of concern because we are all humans.Although honesty is generally taught as the best policy, many of us still tell what we believe are harmless "white lies.” All moral frailties stem from our lying natures. How are you to know when someone is telling you the whole truth as opposed to a white lie? Here are some tips that will help you catch a lying partner.
The "white lie" is employed more than any other form of communication with those closest to us. We are more apt to shade the truth in order to avoid hurt feelings or, when we know a person really well, we tell a “white lie” because we think they really don't want the true truth. We believe we know the white-lie-version they want to hear.
Lying is a personal decision .However there are psychological pressures when we lie to a loved one. An amateur liar will not look you right in the eye when lying. They may touch their head with their hand, or hold their palms up as they spin the lie. These are both giveaways.
An accomplished liar does the opposite. They look you in the eye, their hands at their side. An amateur liar will use the strongest adjectives and a voice level that are above normal pitch and speed.
Is the person you're talking to very fidgety? You often see kids do this when they're telling a tale. That's a sign that someone may be lying.
Someone speaking the truth is not concerned about whether you misunderstand them; they are always willing to clarify. The liar wants to be sure you understand their point immediately so that he can change the subject and no further questions will be asked.
A good memory helps when spotting a liar. You will notice that different stories do not add up. Their stories will contradict.
Rely on your instincts, if you are not paranoid and do not have trust issues. A liar will usually make you feel insecure for some unknown reason.
The extra effort needed to remember what they've already said and to keep their stories consistent may cause liars to restrain their movements and fill their speech with pauses.
What is there to be done when you catch your quarry telling a lie? It is very advisable not to criticize. Instead gently and lovingly call the person to it. Allow the person save face .Most times, someone caught telling a lie ‘ll never admit .In such occasions ,allow the matter to rest and move on but keep you ears and eyes open.
If the situation keeps repeating itself, it is advisable to allow the person be. Someone who is a pathological liar with no effort towards changing is not worth spending time with.
The internet is a ready place for meeting potential lovers. Below are some ideas that might be of use so as not to get lost in the myriad of profiles that get uploaded everyday
You should never forget that your online dating profile is pretty much an advertisement for yourself. There is no point downplaying your attributes. Demonstrate your best features in a positive light and as much as you can. Sell yourself up.
Display a nice picture. Singles will not date you if they cannot see what you look like. This makes sense since approximately 90% of initial attraction is based upon appearances. Ensure that your online photo is as flattering as it can be. If you have great features make sure that they are well displayed in the picture
There is no point lying about your age and your hobbies. Be honest about what sort of relationship you are seeking. There are plenty of singles in online dating for all types of encounters. Being honest on your profile gives you a much higher chance of finding someone that you would get along with, with ease.
Show originality. Never be afraid to stand out from the rest of the online dating singles. People get bored reading the same descriptions over and over. Make an effort to give different answers to others. Be overtly expressive ,remember the whole world has access to your profile. Bland and safe answers are boring and you might not catch any one's attention by playing it safe.
Never ever appear desperate. You may have been single for a while. Your online dating profile is not a place to showcase your misery ,it is not attractive. The more desperate you appear, the less singles you will attract. The trick to online dating is to appear happy and carefree.
In conclusion spend some quality time writing your online profile .Give it the effort you would give a resume……..It is actually one……. lol
===============================================================
COPING WITH LIES AND OTHER VICES
Most problems encountered in relationships stem from the inability to entirely trust the other party. An issue of concern because we are all humans.Although honesty is generally taught as the best policy, many of us still tell what we believe are harmless "white lies.” All moral frailties stem from our lying natures. How are you to know when someone is telling you the whole truth as opposed to a white lie? Here are some tips that will help you catch a lying partner.
The "white lie" is employed more than any other form of communication with those closest to us. We are more apt to shade the truth in order to avoid hurt feelings or, when we know a person really well, we tell a “white lie” because we think they really don't want the true truth. We believe we know the white-lie-version they want to hear.
Lying is a personal decision .However there are psychological pressures when we lie to a loved one. An amateur liar will not look you right in the eye when lying. They may touch their head with their hand, or hold their palms up as they spin the lie. These are both giveaways.
An accomplished liar does the opposite. They look you in the eye, their hands at their side. An amateur liar will use the strongest adjectives and a voice level that are above normal pitch and speed.
Is the person you're talking to very fidgety? You often see kids do this when they're telling a tale. That's a sign that someone may be lying.
Someone speaking the truth is not concerned about whether you misunderstand them; they are always willing to clarify. The liar wants to be sure you understand their point immediately so that he can change the subject and no further questions will be asked.
A good memory helps when spotting a liar. You will notice that different stories do not add up. Their stories will contradict.
Rely on your instincts, if you are not paranoid and do not have trust issues. A liar will usually make you feel insecure for some unknown reason.
The extra effort needed to remember what they've already said and to keep their stories consistent may cause liars to restrain their movements and fill their speech with pauses.
What is there to be done when you catch your quarry telling a lie? It is very advisable not to criticize. Instead gently and lovingly call the person to it. Allow the person save face .Most times, someone caught telling a lie ‘ll never admit .In such occasions ,allow the matter to rest and move on but keep you ears and eyes open.
If the situation keeps repeating itself, it is advisable to allow the person be. Someone who is a pathological liar with no effort towards changing is not worth spending time with.
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